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Expanding Your Comfort Zone As A Highly Sensitive Person in Business

As highly sensitives, what causes us stress is when we're overwhelmed or overstimulated by something, may it be a person, a situation, an object, or an event. Anything that is over and beyond our optimal level of stimulation is stressful. As a fellow highly sensitive person myself, I find that the easiest way to get rid of the stress - or even just reduce it - is to remove myself from the situation. Sounds tempting, right? But if you're an entrepreneur wanting to grow a business online, it's essential to be able to live and thrive in spite of the overstimulation we experience on a daily basis.

Highly sensitives thrive in entrepreneurship and self employment because we're our own boss, we can control how much we get out in the world, we set our own hours, and we're not hassled by colleagues. However, given all those beautiful things... If you're an entrepreneur with an online business and your brand is YOU, there is a need to still show up and get out into the world, albeit online. This is where the nerve racking stuff starts: creating Facebook and Instagram accounts, posting your face in said accounts, talking about your story, engaging in those accounts + in the groups you'll eventually join, doing recorded videos to allow your audience to connect with you, doing live videos to allow the connection to further deepen, selling your stuff through posts, sales pages, and videos, hiring people to help you do all that, and more.

I hope to help you, my fellow HSP in living with these marketing activities and thrive in visibility in the online space.

First off, I want to make sure you're aware of where it all boils down to. I believe that we can create our own rules in business and it's a good thing because highly sensitives tend to have stronger intuition. Let's continue to develop that by trusting ourselves more, shall we? My suggestions below are simply based on my own experience and the experience of my clients who I've guided along the way. You're journey may take slower or faster. Either way is okay.

The ultimate goal of being visible is to show up as the light that we highly sensitive persons are. We innately process information deeply, we take time to think about things, and we are sensitive to subtle behavioral cues from the people around us. We're amazing! All those attributes help you be an effective guide, facilitator... LIGHT. All you have to do is to show up.

Showing up is not only done for the sake of showing up. You show up because people need you. Once you get your energy behind yourself, your purpose, and what you're doing, you'll see that showing up as you are turns you into a magnet of awesome stuff - a magnet of opportunities, referrals, and soulmate clients. It may take expanding your carefully curated comfort zone but it's so worth it!

Now, to live and thrive with these "stressors", here's what you can try:

The Step by step approach.

Expanding our comfort zone is my easeful tweak to the phrase "going out of your comfort zone". I'd rather expand it than to go out of it, to be honest. Leaving my comfort zone, for me, is similar to throwing myself off a cliff, or taking a leaping off a waterfall. It's too much. For the goal of reducing the overwhelm and overstimulation, I see that as going to the other direction. The step by step approach is perfect in expanding comfort zones.

Let's start with a goal... Say, you want to be able to go live on Facebook within 1 month.

You can then use the step by step approach by breaking that huge goal into sub tasks that you can then check off on a regular basis. For our specific goal, here are some examples of subtasks you can add:

  • Post a 15-second clip on Instagram Stories every single day. This is where you can start being creative, no need to show your face for now. Share the Stories automatically to Facebook (there's a setting inside Instagram for this).

  • Do this for the next 30 days...

  • Continue posting video clips on Instagram and start showing your face. If you're feeling too exposed, you can always use a filter.

  • Do this for the next 5 days then...

  • Post a photo of your face on Instagram with a caption that gives a peek into who you are.

  • Post a photo of your face on Facebook with a caption that talks about what you're passionate about in your business.

  • Post a series of 15-second clips on Stories. Around 4-8 clips is good practice. You can talk about a teaching moment or something laser-focused to the service you offer.

  • Do this for the next 5 days then...

  • Post another photo of your face on Instagram with a caption of your choice.

  • Post another photo of your face on Facebook with a caption of your choice.

  • Post a series of 15-second clips on Stories. Around 4-8 clips is good practice. You can talk about a teaching moment or something laser-focused to the service you offer.

  • Do this for the next 5 days then...

  • Create a private Facebook group with just you and a close friend (who wouldn't be notified of any updates) as the members. Go live inside that group for 5-10 minutes. You'll be surprised by how time passes so that's a pretty short It can still be overwhelming but you can be calmed with the fact that no one is going to watch it.

  • Do this for the next 3 days with the a laser focused topic then you'll feel that you get more comfortable with the tech and the energy of being live.

  • Go live.

As you can see, I became really detailed for each of the steps by not only adding steps for the main tasks but also for having to do it consistently for a period of time. This builds up that task to become more of a habit. By then, your audience will be more used to you, and you can see higher engagement coming in.

Not everyone may need as much subtasks but I find that the more comfortable you are with showing up with photos and clips of your face, the easier and the stronger you can show up in your own energy. Try this and let me know what you think!

expanding your comfort zone as a highly sensitive person by mindset strategist